Their success doesn’t mean your failure and vice versa…

Hello everybody! I hope you are doing well. I have not been too active on this blog for a while, but I promise to try and post more often.

Today, I want to talk about comparison. This ugly thing that we all went through at least once. Comparing myself to others is something that happened to me as well. Although I consider myself as someone with fairly high self-confidence, I found myself in situations in which that notion was challenged and I was left making comparison with people I had no business comparing myself with. Over time, with a lot of effort, and my sight set on God, comparison is no longer too present in my daily life.

When I noticed that I sometimes compared myself to others, I immediately knew that it was what discouraged me the most and pushed me to sin a lot. What I am trying to tell you today, is that by comparing yourself, you very easily fall into discouragement and envy. Additionally, you are moving away from the specific plan that God has for you. The plan that God has for your life is very special and specific to you, and you will not accomplish it by looking at what others are doing.

One more thing to know is that when you compare yourself, you envy and by envying you are feeding yourself with hatred. Learn to be happy for others, learn to cheer for others, learn to encourage others, learn to glorify God for what he does in the lives of those around you. Just because someone else is successful in what they are doing, doesn’t mean you’re failing. Just because the people around you are doing things, big or small, doesn’t mean that these people are better than you or that God loves them more than He loves you. You are not competing with your neighbor. If you think that the people around you are your competition, you are fighting the wrong battle and therefore you are exhausting your strength for nothing, while the others are moving forward with their lives.

Do not compare your success to that of others, we all have different callings. You don’t know your neighbor’s calling and you don’t know what s/he went through to accomplish their feats. You have to stop having the feeling that the grass is greener elsewhere, the grass may be greener there because it is synthetic. Focus on your garden, water your grass day after day, thoroughly and be patient, while waiting for it to turn as green as you need it to be. The Bible in Galatians 6: 4-5, teaches us that after examining our own actions, we should be proud of ourselves without comparing our achievements to those of others.

God will never want you to fail, He does not take pleasure in seeing you suffer. Remember, he has wonderful plans for us, he has plans for peace, he has plans to give us a future and hope (Jeremiah 29:11). Keep your eyes on God and trust him with your life and your projects, he will lift you up in the right time and the right way. If God is your shepherd, you will lack nothing, so don’t worry about what others are doing. Count your blessings. Don’t count the blessings of others, it steals your peace, your joy, your kindness and your love and it prevents you from being fruitful.

As Christians, we have to follow Jesus and be more like him. We are not Paulians, Neemians, Ashleyians. We should follow him and only him. You want to please God, not others. You want to accomplish the plan God has for you, not the plan He has for others. God will meet you right where you are, make sure you stay in your own lane.


Psalm 139:14 I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.

Songs: You make me brave – Bethel Music; Every Breath – Hillsong Worship; Who You Say I Am – Hillsong Worship

One thought on “Their success doesn’t mean your failure and vice versa…

  1. I’m guilty of this. Comparing yourself to others is one of the easiest ways to feel depressed. In the world of social media we compare ourselves unfavorably with other people. Everyone seems more accomplished or seems to be having a better time in their lives. These negative comparison are what keeps God from doing what He wants to do in our lives.


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